Conflict is a nagging element in a relationship. However, it is not the conflict but the passive approach that ruins the vitality in a relationship. Every relationship has its share of ups and downs. A constructive approach will keep you get going, while negativity thinking consumes you in a relationship. In other words, you can be as successful or unsuccessful in dealing with a conflict as your approach towards resolving it. However, conflict is a prevailing phenomenon in a relationship. Nonetheless, you can minimize the possibility of conflict with the right attitude and right course of action.
BiWi shares some pivotal guidelines that will help you resolve relationship conflict with a constructive approach:
1. Understand the Differences
Sometimes, conflicts happen as a result of difference of personalities. There are always some factors that come in conflict with your partner. By identifying those factors, you can save yourself from a conflict and its residual effects. Start by analyzing the fundamental differences you share with your partner. Understand the intellectual, emotional and temperamental differences of your partner that conflict with your personality. This will allow both of you to be on the same wavelength while you discuss matters in a conversation.
2. Accept Each Other
Majority of the conflicts happens when you fail to accept your partner. When you start complaining in a relationship, you tend to develop the element of conflict. No one is perfect in this world. Accepting each other helps you coexist in a relationship and reduces the chances of conflict. Living together is about making small adjustments in life. Respect each other’s point of views and be sensitive about the things that your partner feels strongly about.
3. Communicate With Your Partner
Effective communication is the key in a successful relationship. Even the best partners are at stake of conflict due to lack of communication. Communication helps you convey the existing hurdles in a relationship and enables you to empathize with a situation. Be open about the issues you are facing with your partner and convey them to your partner without letting him feel the heat. Be a good listener when your partner talks back to you. Never give general statements about the issues you face with your partner. Rather, you should explain to him with specific examples of the things that cause you problems.
4. Don’t Be Judgmental
If you want to take a relationship to next level, then nagging is never an option. Instead, you should take a constructive approach and put across your opinion on the matter. Rather than judging your partner, you should take a problem-solving attitude. Work out things together for the betterment of the relationship. Find out a way out of a situation that is conflicting with both of you. This will help you pinpoint the things that clash with your equation in the relationship and help you make things better for each other.
5. Be Honest
Always speak your mind while discussing issues with your partner. Tell him with all honesty about all the bad things that make you angry without embarrassing him. At the same time, you should appreciate all the good things that you like about him. Do not let your partner take you for granted because you are too sweet or too sensitive.